In 2006, I was 15 in the semester-long health class mandated by my public high school. Most of what I remember learning about STIs was "STIs are bad - don't get them - use condoms". I really don't remember learning much about HPV specifically at all. Now as a non-monogamous woman in her early 30s, … Continue reading Destigmatizing HPV
Month: January 2022
Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
When I talk to people about being non-monogamous, the most frequent question I get asked is: Don't you get jealous?! My answer to that question is, yes - of course, what human doesn't experience jealousy? “People ask the million-dollar question about non-monogamy of, "How do you handle jealousy? What do you do about jealousy?" These … Continue reading Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
My Favorite Resources
… the person I was chatting with lamented that it was hard to navigate all the internet advice out there. Suddenly I was brought back to my early ENM days, sifting through videos, articles, and blogs, and I remember having a difficult time myself. If I had a hard time discerning what was biased and what wasn't - and I'm a trained research professional - then I can only imagine how hard it may be for others. While I hope this blog can serve as a resource in itself, I am not an expert on polyamory by any means. All I know are the experiences I've had. That being said, I'd like to share my favorite resources that I've come to trust over the years. The following resources have been pivotal in my journey through ENM.
Heart to Heart – Polyamorous Heartbreak
Sometimes - good relationships come to an end. Prior to this breakup - I had the belief that relationships only ended if things were notably not working. For both of us, this relationship worked for us for a long time, and although nothing inherently changed, there came a time where this chapter needed to close. While it was still meeting my needs and working for me, it was no longer working for my partner. And as hard and as sad as it is to see things come to an end - relationships ending are okay. Growing up in a mononormative society - I had the belief that for a relationship to be successful, it needed to last forever. Being polyamorous - I'm starting to learn that a) it's physically impossible for all relationships to last forever, and b) just because a relationship doesn't last forever doesn't mean it wasn't a successful relationship.
The Polyamorous Millennial 