Hey there friends! I’ve received some feedback lately from various monogamous friends who have mentioned that while they’re happily monogamous, they enjoy reading my blog because it allows them to get answers to the questions they’ve been too scared to ask directly.

Guys – that’s one of the main drivers behind why I have this blog!

Humans are curious creatures. We seek to better understand things that are foreign to us, and let’s be honest, ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is the minority in our society. According to a 2021 research study, 1 in 9 people have “engaged in polyamory” ¹. That’s only 11% of the population, so it’s fair to say that polyamory is a foreign concept to many.

So it seems we’re presented with an issue:

1. You have this concept that you don’t know much about
2. You want to know more about the topic because humans are curious by nature
3. You don’t want to ask your questions for a variety of reasons that may include:
   • You’re happily monogamous, and you don’t want anyone to think you’re interested in pursuing non-monogamy just because you asked your polyam friend a question
   • You’re worried your question will be too personal for your polyam friend
   • You’re worried your question may offend your polyam friend
   • You’re polyam yourself and you’re worried your polyam friend will judge you for not already knowing the answer
   • (insert other reasons here)
4. Instead of asking your question, you form assumptions based off indirect sources (the media, your college roommate’s cousin who was in an open relationship that one summer, etc) and you run the risk of believing/perpetuating harmful stigmas

I have a solution….an anonymous AMA (ask me anything)! Now you’re free to get the answers to your curiosities without fear of judgement.

Whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, practice any other form of ENM, or others – all are invited to submit questions!

I’ll keep this open indefinitely and I’ll post answers in batches as I receive a handful of questions.

As a deadline for the first round of answers, please have your questions submitted by 11/1/23!

References:

1. Moors, A. C., Gesselman, A. N., & Garcia, J. R. (2021). Desire, familiarity, and engagement in polyamory: Results from a national sample of single adults in the united states. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.619640 ↩