One year ago, I got a call from my doctor letting me know I was positive for HPV. I can remember that call last year it like it was yesterday. I felt scared and panicked. I felt ashamed and disgusted. Perhaps the biggest emotion - I. Felt. Alone. When my doctor called, she said "your … Continue reading HPV-iversary
Education
New Relationship Energy
You met someone new! Maybe you're in the early stages of a new relationship, or maybe you're just starting initial conversations with a potential new partner. Everytime your phone buzzes you feel giddy when you see their name. It seems as though you simply can't get enough. How could it be that you have such … Continue reading New Relationship Energy
A Polyamorous Valentine
Love is in the air, especially so for polyamorous folks who may have multiple partners. While to some, Valentine's Day is just another Hallmark holiday people spend too much money on, I personally love it. Being polyamorous, I love love, and I love being able to share that with multiple partners. To me, Valentine's Day … Continue reading A Polyamorous Valentine
Destigmatizing HPV
In 2006, I was 15 in the semester-long health class mandated by my public high school. Most of what I remember learning about STIs was "STIs are bad - don't get them - use condoms". I really don't remember learning much about HPV specifically at all. Now as a non-monogamous woman in her early 30s, … Continue reading Destigmatizing HPV
Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
When I talk to people about being non-monogamous, the most frequent question I get asked is: Don't you get jealous?! My answer to that question is, yes - of course, what human doesn't experience jealousy? “People ask the million-dollar question about non-monogamy of, "How do you handle jealousy? What do you do about jealousy?" These … Continue reading Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
My Favorite Resources
… the person I was chatting with lamented that it was hard to navigate all the internet advice out there. Suddenly I was brought back to my early ENM days, sifting through videos, articles, and blogs, and I remember having a difficult time myself. If I had a hard time discerning what was biased and what wasn't - and I'm a trained research professional - then I can only imagine how hard it may be for others. While I hope this blog can serve as a resource in itself, I am not an expert on polyamory by any means. All I know are the experiences I've had. That being said, I'd like to share my favorite resources that I've come to trust over the years. The following resources have been pivotal in my journey through ENM.
Rules Vs Boundaries
I once heard a metaphor that compared relationship "rules" to a band-aid. There's something that gives you negative feelings, and instead of getting to the root cause of why the negative feelings are happening, a rule is created in an attempt to block those feelings from surfacing.
Ethical Non Monogamy Glossary
A quick-reference guide for all ENM terms
The Polyamorous Millennial 