It was March 19, 2020 and I was on a first date with this super charming guy. We were having a blast bowling when he got a call from work saying that effective immediately, his team would be working from home. The next day, Illinois's "stay at home" order went into affect and thus the … Continue reading Being Polyamorous In A Pandemic
My ENM Journey
Celebrating 6 Years!
Six of my favorite photos from this year Six years married to this amazing guy One of the biggest questions we get asked when people find out we're polyamorous is...why did you even get married? The answer to that is easy. I love NP. Irrevocably. With every fiber of my soul. We wanted to make … Continue reading Celebrating 6 Years!
HPV-iversary
One year ago, I got a call from my doctor letting me know I was positive for HPV. I can remember that call last year it like it was yesterday. I felt scared and panicked. I felt ashamed and disgusted. Perhaps the biggest emotion - I. Felt. Alone. When my doctor called, she said "your … Continue reading HPV-iversary
Why I Don’t Date Non-Poly Folks
If any of you were to ever come across any of my dating profiles, you'd notice the following statement at the top of my bio: "Only looking to connect with other polyamorous individuals" This didn't always used to be a hard boundary of mine but in the years I've been polyamorous, I've had enough bad … Continue reading Why I Don’t Date Non-Poly Folks
Openly Polyamorous in a Monogamous World
When did the world turn into such a mononormative place? Has it always been this way? Is it like this everywhere? Someday I'll really dig into research and look more into this...other time periods, other countries, other cultures, other species...but for now, I wanted to post a lighter blog outlining the challenges and benefits of … Continue reading Openly Polyamorous in a Monogamous World
Non-Hierarchical Polyamory as a Married Woman
I've experienced a lot of curiosity of how I'm able to practice non-hierarchical polyamory as a married individual. Just so we're all on the same page, let me start with a few brief definitions. To break it down, there are two main types of ways that coupled individuals structure polyamory: Non-Hierarchical Polyamory – strives to give … Continue reading Non-Hierarchical Polyamory as a Married Woman
A Polyamorous Valentine
Love is in the air, especially so for polyamorous folks who may have multiple partners. While to some, Valentine's Day is just another Hallmark holiday people spend too much money on, I personally love it. Being polyamorous, I love love, and I love being able to share that with multiple partners. To me, Valentine's Day … Continue reading A Polyamorous Valentine
Heart to Heart – Polyamorous Heartbreak
Sometimes - good relationships come to an end. Prior to this breakup - I had the belief that relationships only ended if things were notably not working. For both of us, this relationship worked for us for a long time, and although nothing inherently changed, there came a time where this chapter needed to close. While it was still meeting my needs and working for me, it was no longer working for my partner. And as hard and as sad as it is to see things come to an end - relationships ending are okay. Growing up in a mononormative society - I had the belief that for a relationship to be successful, it needed to last forever. Being polyamorous - I'm starting to learn that a) it's physically impossible for all relationships to last forever, and b) just because a relationship doesn't last forever doesn't mean it wasn't a successful relationship.
Rules Vs Boundaries
I once heard a metaphor that compared relationship "rules" to a band-aid. There's something that gives you negative feelings, and instead of getting to the root cause of why the negative feelings are happening, a rule is created in an attempt to block those feelings from surfacing.
Wait, Non-Monogamy is a Thing?
I can't remember exactly when it first hit me that non-monogamy existed. From my earliest days, perhaps from my parents, perhaps from media, I understood that a dating relationship was between two people. At some point, maybe in college, I remember being aware that "open relationships" were a thing, but I also remember distinctly thinking … Continue reading Wait, Non-Monogamy is a Thing?
The Polyamorous Millennial 