Hey friends! I'm conducting some research for this blog and would really appreciate your input in this survey! It's 100% anonymous, just looking for a large enough pool to gather some statistics. Any and all are welcome to complete the survey regardless of your relationship structure. It takes about 10 minutes to complete if you're … Continue reading Take Part in a Research Survey on Relationship Styles!
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Being Polyamorous In A Pandemic
It was March 19, 2020 and I was on a first date with this super charming guy. We were having a blast bowling when he got a call from work saying that effective immediately, his team would be working from home. The next day, Illinois's "stay at home" order went into affect and thus the … Continue reading Being Polyamorous In A Pandemic
HPV-iversary
One year ago, I got a call from my doctor letting me know I was positive for HPV. I can remember that call last year it like it was yesterday. I felt scared and panicked. I felt ashamed and disgusted. Perhaps the biggest emotion - I. Felt. Alone. When my doctor called, she said "your … Continue reading HPV-iversary
Why I Don’t Date Non-Poly Folks
If any of you were to ever come across any of my dating profiles, you'd notice the following statement at the top of my bio: "Only looking to connect with other polyamorous individuals" This didn't always used to be a hard boundary of mine but in the years I've been polyamorous, I've had enough bad … Continue reading Why I Don’t Date Non-Poly Folks
Openly Polyamorous in a Monogamous World
When did the world turn into such a mononormative place? Has it always been this way? Is it like this everywhere? Someday I'll really dig into research and look more into this...other time periods, other countries, other cultures, other species...but for now, I wanted to post a lighter blog outlining the challenges and benefits of … Continue reading Openly Polyamorous in a Monogamous World
Non-Hierarchical Polyamory as a Married Woman
I've experienced a lot of curiosity of how I'm able to practice non-hierarchical polyamory as a married individual. Just so we're all on the same page, let me start with a few brief definitions. To break it down, there are two main types of ways that coupled individuals structure polyamory: Non-Hierarchical Polyamory – strives to give … Continue reading Non-Hierarchical Polyamory as a Married Woman
New Relationship Energy
You met someone new! Maybe you're in the early stages of a new relationship, or maybe you're just starting initial conversations with a potential new partner. Everytime your phone buzzes you feel giddy when you see their name. It seems as though you simply can't get enough. How could it be that you have such … Continue reading New Relationship Energy
A Polyamorous Valentine
Love is in the air, especially so for polyamorous folks who may have multiple partners. While to some, Valentine's Day is just another Hallmark holiday people spend too much money on, I personally love it. Being polyamorous, I love love, and I love being able to share that with multiple partners. To me, Valentine's Day … Continue reading A Polyamorous Valentine
Destigmatizing HPV
In 2006, I was 15 in the semester-long health class mandated by my public high school. Most of what I remember learning about STIs was "STIs are bad - don't get them - use condoms". I really don't remember learning much about HPV specifically at all. Now as a non-monogamous woman in her early 30s, … Continue reading Destigmatizing HPV
Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
When I talk to people about being non-monogamous, the most frequent question I get asked is: Don't you get jealous?! My answer to that question is, yes - of course, what human doesn't experience jealousy? “People ask the million-dollar question about non-monogamy of, "How do you handle jealousy? What do you do about jealousy?" These … Continue reading Tackling Jealousy in Relationships
The Polyamorous Millennial 